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Psychosomatic Disunity and Trauma

Psychosomatic Disunity and Trauma

Dan Martin
January 28, 2024

It's December 2014.

Just three weeks ago, my Mum passed away from brain and womb cancer. Today, we're at her funeral.

It’s a tough day for me.

I feel I have to be strong, to carry her coffin down the church aisle. My Dad is there, tears in his eyes. It's only the second time I've seen him cry – the first was when Mum died.

Seeing him like this hits me hard.

My best friend is at the funeral too. I want to look strong in front of him, so I hold back my tears.

I keep all my sadness inside. It's a lot of pain and grief, and I just push it all down.

That day, carrying my Mum’s coffin, not crying, I started to keep my feelings locked away. I didn't know it then, but hiding these feelings would affect me a lot later on…

Today, we're tackling psychosomatic disunity and trauma.

I'll also guide you through a practical exercise to start the healing process.

First thing to get your head around is that psychosomatic disunity prevents healing.

When we face trauma, unhealed emotional pain, or anxiety, they often linger in our body.

Our mind struggles to safely acknowledge these feelings.

This disconnection between mind and body is what we call psychosomatic disunity.

Identifying trauma and emotional pain is one thing.

Allowing these experiences to be fully felt and embodied is another.

It's not just about cognitive understanding.

It's about deeply connecting with our body's experiences.

Let's Talk About Trauma.

Trauma isn't always a headline-making event.

It's about being overwhelmed mentally, physically, and emotionally.

The key isn't what happened to us, but what happens inside us as a result.

Trauma can manifest in many ways.

Some signs include:

Addictions
Avoidance of feelings
Over-positivity
Perfectionism
Procrastination
Depression
Physical habits like nail-biting

Embodiment Practice: 5-Point-Alignment.

To heal from psychosomatic disunity, we need to reconnect with our bodies.

This means moving beyond our minds and into a space where our body and mind work together.

Breathing into Three Areas: Most of us breathe into our chest, solar plexus, or abdomen. In the five-point alignment, we focus on breathing into all three, creating a balanced and full breathing pattern.

Grounding Our Feet: Press your feet firmly into the ground. This action helps counteract the urge to 'escape' our experiences and grounds us in the present.

Aligning Our Posture: Instead of a rigid posture, aim for one that offers inner ease. This isn’t about perfection but about finding a comfortable, natural alignment.

With just a little practice each day, this five-point alignment can activate the Vagus Nerve and calm the Autonomic Nervous System.

It's a simple yet powerful way to bring our bodily experiences back into awareness, allowing us to be fully present in our lives.

Revisiting the story of my Mum's passing…

I had a profound experience over the Christmas period at my home in Spain.

My dad and the same friend who attended her funeral were visiting. I can't pinpoint exactly what happened, but their presence triggered something deep within me.

It might have been related to our shared past and the funeral where I had bottled up so much emotion.

One evening, three days after my dad and his girlfriend arrived, I was in bed with my partner, Beth.

I was feeling a deep, unexplainable sadness. Beth helped me to put words to these feelings, and eventually, I realised the root of it all.

Looking into her eyes, I admitted, "I think I've only just realised how much I miss Mum."

That moment was a breakthrough; for the first time in over three years, and specifically about Mum's loss, I let myself cry.

The floodgates opened, and with those tears, I felt an immense release. It was as if a dam had broken, and all the unacknowledged grief poured out.

Since that night, my connection to myself has transformed.

It was more than just a moment of emotional release; it was a step towards psychosomatic unity.

Sharing this is crucial because it highlights the power of emotional vulnerability and the importance of confronting our feelings.

My experience illustrates that acknowledging and expressing our deepest emotions (even years later) can lead to profound healing and a stronger connection with ourselves.

This story is a reminder that it's never too late to address our buried pain and that doing so can open a path to greater self-awareness and inner peace.

It's a journey many of us avoid, but one that can profoundly change our lives for the better.

If this story has inspired you and you're feeling ready to embark on your own journey of emotional discovery, I'm here to help. You can apply to work with me to here: www.thefreedomsolution.com/apply

Loving you,

Dan ‘freedom’ Martin

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